Common Mistakes People Make During Their Divorce

Divorce can be a very nerve-racking and upsetting process. Generally speaking, most people going through a divorce are doing it for the first time and have little experience with the process. Therefore, you can easily make mistakes that can have long-lasting financial and emotional effects.

Below are some of the more common divorce slip-ups to avoid.

Venting/Taking Advice from the Internet and Social Media

You may have friends and family who have been through a divorce and may want to offer you legal advice. While friends and family support is invaluable during a divorce, they may not know what is best for you.

You may feel good venting on social media, but the habit can be damaging for your divorce case. Any post, positive or negative, is material evidence that your spouse can use against you in a court of law.

The internet is a great source of information on the general statements on the law, and you should educate yourself. However, internet and social media advice is not advised because you may get outdated guidance as laws change frequently.

Every divorce situation is unique, and what worked for another couple may not work for you. A family law attorney is your best bet because you cannot find their experience and expertise on social media. Furthermore, laws differ in each state, and your go-to person should understand the laws in your jurisdiction.

Going Straight To Court

A divorce is a stressful time that may result in changes in living standards and property ownership. As a result of the heightened emotions of divorcees, you can easily rush to court because you're bitter.

The court may not be ideal for every couple, and other alternatives to a court hearing exist. Mediation is one of the alternatives and is significantly less expensive, faster, and easier on children.

Mediation is a collaborative process in the presence of a neutral mediator. Mediation, however, requires honesty and may not work for couples with trouble communicating. If unsure of what path to pursue, talk to your attorney for legal guidance.

Involving Children in the Dispute

High-conflict divorces result in verbal and physical altercations often witnessed by children. Children caught in the middle of a divorce usually go through an emotional experience that can harm them long-term.

When going through a divorce, parents must minimize the impact of the divorce on children. Unfortunately, separating parents often treat children like a card in divorce battles without realizing the emotional damage their actions cause.

Children in a divorce are more likely to experience anxiety and depression. Divorce also tends to affect their future relationships with peers. Additionally, a parental breakup may also hamper their academic performance.

Divorcing spouses can avoid the said pitfalls by:

• Telling children the truth
• Presenting a united front
• Encouraging children to share their feelings
• Giving reassurance, love, and support to children

Hiding Assets, Information, or Documentation

One of the first steps in a divorce is the financial disclosure process. As the law requires, each spouse should openly disclose all assets (income, expenses, and debt).

Hiding assets, swearing false documents or information is a fraud. Some common tricks include:

• Overstating debts
• Understating marital property
• Reporting higher expenses
• Reporting lower income

If convicted, the court may order the person to pay restitution to the other spouse, pay a fine to the court, or face incarceration.

Still, 31 percent of adults in the US are deceptive about divorce proceedings. The strategy is illegal and misguided. And the court may grant unequal property division to punish the spouse who concealed assets.

The representation of an experienced lawyer will help you avoid mistakes and protect your interests throughout the divorce process.



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